IF YOU WANT THINGS IN YOUR LIFE TO CHANGE, YOU NEED TO CHANGE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE.
If you want to lose weight, you will need to stop eating in front of the telly. If you want to stop having difficult relationships with people then you need to re think your attitude. If you are always broke then you need to stop buying shoes. If you are fourth time victim to unrequited love then you may need to reassess your approach. If we want the same thing to stop happening then we need to stop doing the same thing. When will we learn that we are in the drivers seat of our own destiny? Prolly never.
BE WHO YOU ARE AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL BECAUSE THOSE WHO MIND DON'T MATTER AND THOSE THAT MATTER DON'T MIND. - DR SEUSS
It's strange that the most natural thing to do, to be be yourself, requires so much effort. In order to be yourself you have to know yourself which is quite the daunting task. Knowing oneself is not about knowing whether you like olives or not, whether you like east coast or west coast rap, whether you are into tropical fashions or like to keep shit simple. No...none of this matters and these things change with the wind. Even when the Twin Towers came crashing down, the foundation remained. What are your values? Figure them out. Write them down if you have to. All things external comes and goes but integrity will always be last man standing.
TELL YOUR SECRETS TO THE WIND, BUT DON'T BLAME IT FOR TELLING THE TREES - KHALIL GIBRAN
I know what its like, I am the worst for it. You need to say things out loud so that someone can make you feel better about them. 'A problem shared is a problem halved' and all that shit BUT! Do not underestimate your own ability to sort shit out. Come on people, you are stronger than that.
LIVE WITH NO EXCUSES. LOVE WITH NO REGRETS.
The former is way easier than the latter, I know this. It's particularly hard when the pain you feel from love gone wrong keeps you awake at night, turns you into an anxious, neurotic version of your former self to the point where you question your mental health. Believe me, I know! I know you sit there wishing you could rewind to the time when things were going so well, so light with the other person and that you handled the transition into emotional territory with a little more tact and skill. Well boo hoo, that is life. Wake up every day knowing that yesterday is now a part of unchangeable history and the new day is filled with promise. I know it's hard but try to be present. Be in the now because now is whats happening.
NEVER ALLOW SOMEONE TO BE YOUR PRIORITY WHILE YOU'RE JUST THEIR OPTION.
Girls, this one is especially for you. You KNOW the difference between a booty call and a normal call by now. You know what it is deep down yet you hang onto the hope that it could be different this time and that he will see the light and see how fucking awesome you are. Truth is, he won't ever see the light ever because he only texts you when his dick is hard and that is the only thing on his mind at the time so drop a 'Who's this?' in reply and call someone who you know will be happy to hear from you.
ADVICE IS JUST CONFIRMATION OF WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW.