YOU DON’T KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT EVERYTHING.
People bond with each other by sharing something new and interesting and then shutting up and learning. Give and take. Push and Pull. Sometimes, like maybe, if you want, start a sentence with, ‘Oh really? I never knew that!’ instead of, ‘Well funny you should say that, because I am also just as interesting as you are!’ Nothing to prove when meeting new people hey, it’s not a job interview. Chill out.
I don’t mean be ‘crazy’ and arrange sky diving weekends and shit like that. Just be up for stuff. Stay up a bit late. Agree to go to a gig even though it’s not really the music you’re in to. Be silly and laugh. Be spontaneous and infectious and someone people want to be around. Stop going on and on about what you ‘don’t do i.e. “I don’t do facebook/twitter/iPhones. I don’t have a TV. I don’t drink’ WELL WHOOPY DOO FOR YOU! What do you do then hmm? Not doing those things is fine, but BE COOL, you don’t need to shout about it and make a big point of it. Enough of what you don’t and more of what you do. If what you’re not doing defines you instead of what you are doing then honey, you gots a problem yo.
JUST DON’T BE AN ASSHOLE.
It really is that simple. Be nice. Bring something to the table. Encourage and give credit where credit is due. Ask for help when you need it and be grateful and thankful. Take praise and say thank you. Use your skills and resources to help others and you’ll find they’ll often do the same back…unless they’re also an asshole, then they probably won’t.
GET A ROUND IN.
Buy some drinks and maybe shout a friend a fucking coffee from time to time eh?
THROW SOME SUGGESTIONS OUT.
Are you a ‘I’ll first see what someone else has planned and if I like it I’ll take part and if I don’t I’ll just stay in and think about how awesome I am’ kind of person?
TALK ABOUT YOURSELF LOADS AND YOUR ‘PERSONAL STYLE’
It’s not boring at all. People love it.
DON’T BE SO SELECTIVE.
Variety is the spice of life. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Um….I can’t think of any more cliche’s. So what if they dress different, talk different, are older than you, younger than you or listen to shit music? Find common ground, get to know, expand your horizons. But DO NOT be friends with crack heads and people who love hiring limos. They will just drag you down.
MAKE OTHERS FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES AND BE GENUINE ABOUT IT.
Don’t be a kiss ass, but be someone people want to be around because they feel better for it. Then you’ll feel better about YOURSELF. Truth.